Boyfriend or your keeper?
It seems to constantly be an issue these days that boyfriends have never-ending issues with their girlfriend’s line of work. With the recent boom in promotional modeling work and paid to party girls at every event it seems as if every girl is having some sort of issues with her beau about it. It’s always the topic of argument between every twenty- something woman and her boyfriend, and even if it’s not about working at a nightclub it’s about going to them or even simply having a "girl's night out".
It doesn’t matter how crazy or inconvenient the man’s job or life is, it always seems to end up with the girl fighting to keep her lifestyle to keep the man in her life. It is a known fact to everyone that men and women both go to nightclubs to pick up the opposite sex, flirt and get attention. Although it shouldn’t mean that the instant a woman gets involved in a relationship with a new man that she should call it quits to going out with her girlfriend’s to a nightclub on a Saturday night or rethink her nightlife job. Going out to nightclubs is still high a source of entertainment and working in the environment is a high source of income.
A lot of women, majority of women, quit their nightlife job to satisfy their new man the minute he starts complaining .These are women who rely on that cash flow to pay their rent get them through school or have a little extra cash in their pocket. Women who are independent, work for their money and don’t rely on men to support them. Men are constantly preaching how unattractive gold-digger’s are but the minute they meet miss independent they all of a sudden have an issue with that too. Although it is understandable why their men wouldn’t one hundred percent agree with their nightlife gig it is not understandable that they expect their woman to quit. Whether or not the man is offering to replace the money their woman would be missing if she quit her job for him is irrelevant. No woman should ever quit her job for her man, no matter how much she adores him and no matter how much he complains.
You rarely hear about this situation being the other way around and very few men would ever give up a lifestyle or job to please their lady. That being said, there are some adjustments a woman must make when in a new relationship like laying off on the flirtatious attitude towards other men or blowing off her man to attend a party, that kind of behavior defiantly isn’t gonna’ fly. The only thing that should matter is who you are going home to at the end of the night, and your new man should know that it’s him and only him. If your man doesn’t know that you’re a good girl with a tad of a bad girl image, then he needs to recall why he fell for you in the first place.
No man can replace the feeling of independence; the only person you can really count on is yourself. Don’t give up anything about yourself for a man, especially your source of income. The minute he breaks’ your heart or you stop seeing him you’ll be left with less than just your boyfriend, you’ll be left without your job, your girlfriends, or even your social life. Now, don’t go on a crazy power trip waving your hands in the air screaming “I don’t need a man” but just remember that if he met you under those circumstances, he shouldn’t be asking you to quit your job or your social life. Nobody need’s that kind of added stress in their life unless of course you are a drama queen which in that case this isn’t the advice article you should be reading.